“Let me tell you something you already know. The world ain’t all sunshine and rainbows. It’s a very mean and nasty place and I don’t care how tough you are it will beat you to your knees and keep you there permanently if you let it. You, me, or nobody is gonna hit as hard as life. But it ain’t about how hard ya hit. It’s about how hard you can get it and keep moving forward. How much you can take and keep moving forward. That’s how winning is done! Now if you know what you’re worth then go out and get what you’re worth. But ya gotta be willing to take the hits, and not pointing fingers saying you ain’t where you wanna be because of him, or her, or anybody! Cowards do that and that ain’t you! You’re better than that!”
Can I hold the weight of this?
Will it break me now?"
“When I lost my first husband, someone told me to think of my grief and tears as a bucket. I think of this often and tell other people going through a death or loss. When it first happens, the bucket overflows several times a day. Over time, you have to empty the bucket less often but you still have to empty it. Take good care of yourself. Don’t be hard on yourself for what you did or didn’t do. Go do something you really enjoy or something totally new. Rent movies that make you cry. Rent movies that make you laugh. Find someone you can talk to. Try a grief group. Try a therapist. Buy yourself flowers. Take care to empty your bucket every so often.”
It’s dazzling, but the light is from tens of thousands of years ago.
Maybe the star doesn’t even exist any more. Yet sometimes that light seems more real to me than anything."